Wednesday, February 27, 2013

February '13 Length Check

13 Months Natural

This post has won for this weeks "I Love My Post"!! You guys make this possible!

Life in a Break Down

It’s been another month...time for a length check!!

January 30, 2013 = 1 year natural, 11 weeks since the BC
What's the BC...see here

February 25, 2013 = 54 weeks natural, 15 weeks since the BC

This month has been a pretty good month. Yesterday was Dilemma Tuesday. (What’s Dilemma Tuesday? See here :-). I noticed a lot of shedding during the past two weeks. I also noticed an increase in itching too. I doused my head with enough coconut oil and moisturizer for 2 or 3 heads! I didn't know what to do! I told my cosmetologist about these issues and she told me it was probably my nerves...LOL! She says my scalp always looks superb when I come in and that I'm taking good care of it...but I am indeed using too much coconut oil! 

I wanted a different style and a different style I got! Dilemma Tuesday averted! I knew I didn't want a "tight" hairstyle, like the flexi-rod set I got the last time. Although the hairstyle fuzzed out, it didn't fuzz out enough for me. My goal yesterday was to look as nice as possible for this's a special weekend. 

We’ll see if my goal was accomplished in a later post.

Anywho, here are all my current length checks!

What do you guys think?!

 photo Signature_zps851b8398.jpg

P.S. - Check out The Lovely Blog Hop! It is just that...LOVELY!!

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

First Things First

Hey guys!! You know how much I love these things, so I won't even get into it today!! So, I'm linking up today for First Things First!
First beverage of choice: This is a no brainer!! My first beverage of choice is ALWAYS Mountain Dew and no Mello Yello will not suffice. I love this soda and drink at least once a day. I haven’t always liked Mt. Dew like that and I can’t really pinpoint when I did start liking it that much, but now that I do it’s engrained. I know soda is bad for your body…and I know that Mountain Dew is the worst of all sodas (blah, blah, blah)…but I usually try to treat myself with one every night at supper time (I don’t actually say supper…but I think it’s hilarious, so I wanted to use it).  Now that I’m fasting for Easter (no soda, fried foods, sweets, or junk food), I don’t drink my soda at night...and my body knows it! I’ll be cooking dinner and my taste buds  will be revving up for Mt. Dew getting ready. If you read my post here you’d know about my grocery shopping escapade. During that escapade, I decided to drink outside of the Mt. Dew box. I got a box of Pepsi and Fanta (Orange). I didn’t really enjoy the Pepsi too much and there are actually about 2 or 3 cans of it left. I have, however, gotten on the Fanta train. We’ll see how far this Fantasea goes! LOLOL…I crack myself up :-)

First breakfast of choice: Since this is "of choice" I will give my ideal breakfast (that I never have time to eat!). My breakfast of choice would be Ihop's Pick-A-Pancake Combo with Strawberry Pancakes, either bacon or ham, hash browns, and shelled eggs scrambled. I love IHOP's breakfast. My best friend Nicole does too. Every time we get together we go there...except for recently. I've had a little bout with eggs, so I've tried to steer clear of them. I'm slowly working my way back to a place where I'm in love with them again! Eggs are my absolute favorite breakfast food!!

First dessert of choice: Since I don't really eat desserts, per se, I don't really have a preference. Whenever I get a taste for something sweet, I make a run to Krispy Kreme!! Who doesn't love doughnuts?? The last few times I've gone to Krispy Kreme, the Hot Now sign wasn't on, but that didn't stop me!! I think I got a dozen doughnuts each time. The last time I went, I was trying to hide them from CB, but he surprised me and ending up catching me with the doughnuts anyway. He didn't know that (but he does now ;-)! Other than that, I recently went to this local restaurant and had warm apple pie a la mode. It was the most delicious thing I'd ever tasted. It almost knocked me off my feet...but I was sitting down, so I was good! 

I hope you guys enjoyed this visit!

IOh, btw, what are your first drink, breakfast, and dessert of choice?? I'm curious to know!

 photo Signature_zps851b8398.jpg





 photo Signature_zps851b8398.jpg

Monday, February 25, 2013

I'm Loving Music Right Now...well maybe just certain artists....

Oh man, you guys!! Kendrick Lamar is one of my favorite artists (If you didn't know that, there's probably a lot more you don't know about me...see here). His album, Good Kid, M.A.A.D. City, is the epitome of why I love good music. The whole album collectively told one story! That album received rave reviews and for good reason. It was the highest selling album in 2012 for first -week hip hop album sales from a male artist AND it was the best-selling debut album from a male artist in 2012 as well. That's hard to do in the age of streaming music. Look at me...I could go on for days about the album, but I won't. All I can say is good job and I definitely keep the album on repeat.

I will however talk about this video, Poetic Justice.

This video basically embodies what I just described about the album. You can hear this song and imagine the type of video that would be produced for the song; you can do that with most songs really...and most of the time what you envision would be pretty close to the actual video.

Not this one!! I love artistic pieces (see another artistic expression I enjoy here) and this is definitely a great piece.

I was also told that the official video for Suit & Tie came out. When I heard this I said, "I thought the video that was out was the official video!", but it wasn'

So I watched this video and it was pretty good. I hate to say it, but I've almost gotten to the point where I'm tired of hearing the I won't let myself get tired of it just yet, but I'm almost there.

It does me some good to see real music coming out again. There was a point in music where I was losing hope. I just hope this increase in good music continues. We need more of this!!

What do you guys think about music these days?

 photo Signature_zps851b8398.jpg

I Wanna See You Work Out For Me....

I HAVE AN ANNOUNCEMENT TO MAKE and I'm pretty excited about it!

I went to the gym today to work out. I talked a little bit about my gym woes, here, but today I have good news to report. Here was my normal routine for the gym, pre-straightened hair:

Treadmill: Speed 4; Incline 2; 15 mins
Adductor: 90 lbs, 12 reps; 100 lbs, 12 reps; 110 lbs, 12 reps
Abductor: 100 lbs, 110 lbs, 120 lbs (all 12 reps)
Leg Extensions: 50 lbs, 60 lbs, 70 lbs (all 12 reps)
Abdominals: 65 lbs, 70 lbs (both 12 reps)
Simultaneous dumbbell lifts: 12.5 lbs, 3 times, 12 reps each
Alternate dumbbell lifts: 12.5 lbs, 3 times, 12 reps each
Oblique side weight lifts: 30 lbs, 3 times, 12 reps each
Leg press: 160 lbs, 12 reps; 180 lbs, 6 reps; 190 lbs, 5 reps

Since I was out of the gym for 2 weeks, I've been trying to ease my body back into the normal routine with this adjusted routine:
ADJUSTED ROUTINE (changes from normal noted)
Treadmill: minus .2 from speed
Adductor: minus 20 pounds from each
Abductor: minus 10 pounds from each
Leg Extensions: same
Abdominals: same
Simultaneous dumbbell lifts: minus 2.5 lbs
Alternate dumbbell lifts: minus 2.5 lbs
Oblique side weight lifts: same
Leg press: same lbs, minus 2 reps; minus 10 lbs, minus 2 reps; minus 10 lbs, same reps

I felt like a wuss on the adjusted routine, even though there wasn't significant change in my workout. I knew what I was capable of and I wished I wouldn't have stayed out those two weeks. But what was a girl to do?! 

The gym is usually jam packed during the week. Because I felt like my body wasn't ready, I didn't want to do my normal routine while there were so many people in there because I didn't want to embarrass myself (in case my body gave out during the workout).

I went to the gym today, and it was heaven. It's usually a lighter crowd in there on the weekends, so I feel I can work out like I want to (see here for some comic relief related to this subject)! I usually go to the gym every Saturday and Sunday I'm in town, but the break did just that to my workout schedule too...broke it! So, along with working on getting my body back to the regular weight sizes, I'm trying to get my motivation back too.

I got tired of the wuss routine and pushed myself today. I was very proud of my accomplishments today! Here's what I did:
Treadmill: adjusted
Adductor: normal
Abductor: normal
Leg Extensions: 60 lbs, 65 lbs, 70 lbs (all 12 reps)
Abdominals: 70 lbs, 80 lbs (both 12 reps)
Simultaneous dumbbell lifts: adjusted
Alternate dumbbell lifts: adjusted
Oblique side weight lifts: 35 lbs, 3 times, 12 reps each
Leg press: 170 lbs, 10 reps; 180 lbs, 8 reps; 200 lbs, 6 reps!

I lifted 200 pounds with my legs!! That's the most I've lifted ever. I was so happy and excited when I did it. I did it with a type of ease that's not exactly easy but it's not unbearable. I've discovered the best feet placement to give me maximum coverage for lifting the weights, so I'm eager to life more...but again, I will not push my body too hard! I will work up to more weight with time.

In case you haven't noticed, the leg press is where my main focus is with working out. My workout routine is centered around my midsection (stomach, thighs, butt). My goal for the upcoming month is to get all my numbers at least back up to the Normal Routine numbers, then to surpass each of the normal numbers by the end of the March. Also, 250 will be my leg press goal!

I'm excited and I feel I deserve some applause! For those of you who have set workout goals for the year, where are you with those? Share with me; I'd love to hear from you! :-)

Check out the I Love My Online Friends GFC Blog Hop at The Things We Find Inside (button on the sidebar). Happy Monday followers and visitors!

 photo Signature_zps851b8398.jpg

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Sunday Social

It's Sunday Social y'all!!

Sunday Social

Here we go!!

1. What was your biggest middle school fashion mistake?
Middle school fashion? I can barely remember what I wore yesterday, let alone thinking about what I wore all the way back in middle school. Thank goodness for pictures, right?! Because of the pictures, I vaguely remember wearing way too big jeans and way too big shirts. I remember a lot of plaid shirts. And, I also remember wanting these platform Reeboks sooooo bad. I begged my mom to get me those for the longest time and when I finally got them, I don't think I wore them but a hand full of Kids!

2. Who were your best friends in high school? Pics?
I had a number of friends throughout middle school and high school. But the ladies who have been with me since middle school are my three best friends to this day: Dorothy (affectionately known as longest friendship - since 5th grade), Nicole, & Tia (list in alphabetical! We all bonded through band. Me, Nicole, and Dottie played the flute; Tia played the clarinet. We've all come such a long way and I am extremely proud of each of these ladies!!

I guess we thought we were Charlie's! :-)

3. What was a typical weekend like for you in high school?
Well, I haven't changed too much from high school to now. I was a homebody then and I'm still a homebody now. I don't know if this is by choice or if it's by circumstance...LOL. If I could have it my way, I'd be much more outgoing than I am, but I digress. Typically, especially in the fall, my weekends would be full of marching band activities (hear more from me about band here). We traveled almost every weekend for band competitions. The band was really good and at our largest during my first two years. The last two years things were changing. The atmosphere was changing with each new class that entered high school...and it was downhill from there! LOL.

4. Did you have any boyfriends?
Tell us about that.
I did. They weren't anything extraordinary, just your typical high school relationships. Not really too much to tell there.

5. Did you have any secret codes with your friends?
Spill your secrets!
I'm trying to think back to high school and the things my friends and I did and said. I'm sure we had our little inside jokes and sayings, but I'm drawing a blank!

6. If you could relive one day/moment/experience from middle school or high school, what would it be?
There are three moments I would relive (I know it just says one, but I have to make up for questions 4 and 5)! First: The summer before my senior year, my friend and I were able to go to this program called Project Uplift at UNC. While there we just so happened to meet two young men, from the next city over from our hometown, who were attending the program as well. We all hit it off and ended up spending some time together once we all got back home, but it was high school! We hung out a few times and lost touch. By some bizarre twist of fate, years and years later (after high school, college, and grad school!), I ran into the guy I liked the most out of the two. Fast forward to today, me and my CB are doing well! I would relive those moments because who would have known that those moments would be so special for my future! :-)

Secondly: I would relive getting my acceptance letter from the greatest school in the nation! That's right, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Once I read that letter I felt as if I had the whole world ahead of me. I would go off to UNC, become a pharmacist, and stack money!! LOL. Needless to say, things definitely did not happen like that, but I would relieve that moment because it was the beginning of a new chapter for me.

Thirdly: I would relieve graduation day! Just as the acceptance letter was the beginning of a new chapter, graduation was the kick start. It made me realize that things were about to get real. I was going to be on my own. I was going to leave home and never come back!! (That was my slogan in high mom brings that up from time to time...we get a kick out of it now) I would relive this moment, but I would want to change it a bit. I wish I could have gone into college like a blank slate, instead of going in thinking I knew everything. I wish I didn't know what I thought I wanted to major in and I definitely wish I wouldn't have taken both Calculus and Chemistry during my first semester there...big mistake!! LOL. But, I learned a lot of lessons from my college experience. I pass these lessons on to every young person I know entering college (at least the ones who'll

What are your answers to these questions?? I'd love to hear!

Join the Sunday Social at A Complete Waste of Makeup (button in the sidebar).
You'll enjoy it!

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Saturday Morning Coffee

Good Morning Y'all!

This is actually how I feel when this opportunity arises!
It's Saturday morning!! Usually Saturday is the ONLY day during my week that I get to sleep as late as I want...and I treasure that a lot (you can ask anybody who wants me to do anything with or for them on Saturday However, things rarely work out that way.

Last Friday night/Saturday morning, I slept for 12 HOURS and I loved every minute of it!! I woke up rejuvenated!

Today, it's also raining cats and dogs. I hate rainy days...or any day that includes any kind of precipitation (see here for a blurb on that). I don't dislike rain, or snow, itself...I dislike having to be out in it!!

Today, I have a short to do list of things I have to do and things that I probably should be doing.

1. I have a meeting at church to go to, which is fine. I wish it could have been a little later in the day (so I could sleep in more), but I guess the general consensus is...get the meeting over early so you have the rest of your Saturday to do whatever else you need to do.

2. I need to get my car serviced and do some research on AAA, since I'll be driving all around the United States this week. I love being proactive, especially concerning my car. I always have been and I think that's played a factor in me having my car for 8 years with no major issues. I had to learn the hard way about traveling long distances unprepared (per se; maybe I should write a post about's really an unbelievable story).

3. I really need to go to the gym. My gym routine was recently thrown off for two weeks when I got my natural hair straightened (read about that adventure here). Getting any type of moisture on my straightened hair would have turned my hair into a puff ball!! LOL. I sweat in my head very badly, so I had to nix the gym for 2 weeks. Now that my hair is not straightened anymore, I have to get back into the routine of going like I was pre-straightened hair. I have to get my body back to where it was. Before straight hair, I was leg pressing 190 pounds, easy! I'm currently working my body back up to the weight sizes I was using before. I'm up to about 180, which is pretty good, but I want to be back to where I was. The name of the this workout picture is curvy girl leg press. I got a kick out of that because one of the many reasons I work out is to define certain areas of my body. I definitely want to be an in-shape curvy girl!! :-)

BUT, it's a rainy Saturday!!! Who wants to do any of that, right?!
What are your plans for today??
What do you do on rainy days/weekends??

Check out the Saturday Morning Coffee Blog Hop at (her new site)!!

Friday, February 22, 2013

5 Question Friday

I found this little gem through a site I follow and was ecstatic! I love these just as much as Blog Hops!! So, let's get started!!

1. What is a hobby you would love to learn and why?

I would LOVE to take up ballet. I watch Dance Moms all the time. I love watching ballet and I can see myself moving like ballet dancers (in my head, that is...LOL). Ballet is so artistic and's amazing! I don't know if ballet is the best for your body, but it's definitely beautiful. If my body were more agile, if I had the time to devote to the craft, and if I knew I could dance like I see myself dancing in my head...I would totally do this!!

2. What do you wish you could have delivered to your house but does not deliver?

Good question. Right here recently, my life has been on the fast track. I've had so many things going on that I say almost everyday "I need an assistant!". There are many things I wish could be done for me. Now, to think of just one thing I would love to have delivered to my house, I would pick groceries. I'm in the grocery store a lot. I try to keep a running list of things I need to avoid forgetting things. I always end up getting the opportunity to go to the grocery store when I don't have my list with me. I'm a "once-I-get-in-the-house-I'm-staying-in-the-house" kinda girl. I hate having to back track, especially for a list! Ha! So I rehearse the list in my head until I think I at least have enough items remembered to make the trip worthwhile...only to get home and realize I missed the one item I really needed! If I could get groceries delivered, that would totally eliminate my problem. For kicks, check out some of my grocery escapades here and here!

3. What's your favorite snow day activity? Inside and out?

It doesn't usually snow here in North Carolina, but this year we've had more than a good helping of it...check it out here! I hate cold weather. If I could have it my way, I'd live in Florida or California because neither of those states have a real winter (although they have their fair share of hurricanes and win some, you lose! Needless to say, I don't have any favorite snow day activities outside...LOL. When I'm inside, I long for my moma's vegetable beef soup and peanut butter sandwiches. Since, I can't make it like she can (or because I don't I have good reason for but that's another story in itself) I usually wind up on the couch, watching TV, rummaging in the cabinets and fridge for food (since I never believe it's going to snow, I never prepare). I enjoy the snow because it gives me a reason to have lazy day on purpose!

4. Would you meet a stranger from an Internet dating site?

I definitely WOULD NOT. I watch enough Criminal Minds, Law & Order, and local news not to do that. People are CRAZY these days. I know there are numerous sites that boast about being the best match makers on the web. I know they promote "happy couples" who found each other on their websites. I just don't trust it. If I don't know you, if I don't know people who know you, if I'm not around you on a daily basis to see how you act (in public and with other people), I'm not believing anything you tell me through a computer. PUHLEASE!! It is 2013. It might work for some and I'm not knocking it if that's what you like, but I'm a skeptic and I WILL NOT engage in such I'm good with my CB ;-)

5. If you had to spend 35 hours in a car with 4 other people, who would you choose?

35 hours? Do we get bathroom breaks, food, and and/or sleep?? Geez!! And 4 other people in addition to myself...are we in a Suburban?? We better be! LOL. If I had to choose 4 other people I would choose (definitely in no particular order) my CB, my mom, my sister, and my best friend Nicole (at Pharr Away). I would choose these people because they are the people I talk to the absolute most. I love having fun and I always have fun with them all. That's a very long trip...I wonder where we're going! :-)

What are your answers to these 5 questions?? I'd love to hear it!

My Afro Is Back!!

I finally washed my flexi-rod curls out Tuesday night. I'm so happy to see my hair again! I think I could've held the curls in for the whole two weeks, but those curls just were not sitting right with me!

3 months after the big chopThe first picture shows my hair the day after I washed it. I set this hairstyle as I normally do (I didn't realize I didn't have a blog about my setting process for this hairstyle, but it's a mixture of here, here, and here. I'll write one soon.). I think it might be about time to get my ends trimmed though. They feel really rough and don't seem to moisturize as well as they used to. It's been a little over 3 months since I've big chopped, so I definitely think its about time.

When I do a wet set for the night, I think my hair turns out dryer period; not dry as in just has a dryer feel to the touch. As a result, I over-moisturize...and my face does not deal well with the over-moisturization of my hair!! I douse my hair with a mixture of moisturizer, moisture butter, and coconut thing I know, over a couple of days, I start growing mini unicorn horns. (Read about my past problems with this issue here)

A twistout hairstyle with a flat twistThe picture on the left shows a sample of the mini horns! Looking at this picture, I don't know if my iPad has a camera or a microscope on it!

I've been dealing with dry skin this winter. I don't know if it's just that cold, if I'm just getting older, or what?! I've started drinking more water and I've started using coconut oil on my skin, which includes my face too.

The coconut oil was doing okay on my face when my hair was pulled back and away from my face. Now that my hair is getting some length to it and hangs on my face a little more, whenever I wear it down, I need to be more aware of how much product I'm using. There's something about the mixture of products on my hair that my face doesn't like. Either way, my face is currently breaking out, so I need to figure out what it is because I don't like feeling, or looking, like a unicorn!

The second hairstyle also kind of sparked my creative juices. Whenever I do my hair myself, I do an afro (or some variation of it). When I was transitioning, I used to experiment with flat twists, and it would look good. I threw some flat twists in my hair today, which is what that is at the front of my hair (I know you can't tell from the angle of the picture), and it turned out well. So, I have until Dilemma Tuesday (what's Dilemma Tuesday) to play with different flat twist styles, wish me luck!!

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Pencil Skirt OOTD

So, I'm excited about doing an Outfit Of The Day post!! I posted a picture of myself this past Sunday on Instagram and got some really good feedback from Jessie at Blogging While Single and Over 30. I thought it would be a great outfit to share as an OOTD. I'm sure I won't be doing these often because I feel like once you capture an outfit (such as posting pictures online - Facebook, Instagram, etc.) it lessens the bang the outfit has when you wear it again! LOL...maybe that's just my flawed thinking, but I digress.

The outfit, or shall I say outfit(s) of the day are a play off of each other. Okay, the secret is out!! Whenever I find a good piece (whether it be clothes, shoes, etc.), for a decent price, I'm very tempted to buy two. Most times I refrain, but there are a number of instances where I do not. LOL. These OOTD shows two instances where I did not refrain. Items - the blazer and the skirt!

Top Picture
Blazer: JCPenney
Shirt: I don't remember. If I had to guess I'd say Charlotte Russe or Forever 21
Scarf: I don't If I had to guess I'd say Rainbow
Skirt: Ross
Tights: Charlotte Russe
Boots: Payless
Earrings: Body Central
Michael Kors Watch: My CB *smiley*
Bracelet: Claire's

Bottom Picture:
Blazer: JCPenney
Shirt: I don't remember. If I had to guess I'd say Charlotte Russe or Forever 21
Necklace: Beauty World
Skirt (with belt attached): Ross
Tights: Charlotte Russe
Boots: Payless
Owl Earrings: Gift from a good friend
Michael Kors Watch: My CB *smiley*
Bracelet: Claire's

I don't know if you guys know this or not, but I'm a very frugal shopper. I splurged on a few items for these outfits, so my point won't be made today. But my cutest and biggest saves were the skirts. They were $6 each! Very cute and sheek; and can be used for both work and play.

What do you guys think? I mean, cute - I know, but other than that...LOL...jk, jk!

Seriously, what do you guys think?

This is pegged as my favorite post for this week!! Check out the blog hop:

Life in a Break Down

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

First Things First

Good Day All!!

It's Tuesday. The week has just begun and Friday cannot get here fast enough! First things first, I set up this post to automatically go out this morning...AND IT DIDN'T WORK!! Lol, so this post is 4 1/2 hours late going out *mad face*

Now, Hallie from Life: Oceanside did a First things First last week and asked these questions. Although she has not yet posted for a link up today, I'm still going to give her a shout out for it anyway!!

First thing you do when you get home
Well there's a routine I follow when I get home. I walk in the house and the first thing I pass is the TV. So I turn the cable box on then turn the TV on. There are very few days when I turn neither of them on (you guys know the kinds of days I'm talking about)! Even when I'm not watching TV, I like to have the TV on for background noise. Helps me feel like I'm engaging with a friend who's talking nonstop (you don't really have to listen!!

Your "first" date with your now significant other
Wow. The first date CB and I had was a lunch date at Olive Garden on Christmas Eve! How can one forget a Christmas Eve first date?! I can remember parts of it like it was yesterday. I remember where we sat in the restaurant and everything. When he first asked me to go on the date, the first word that came to mind was shock! I have a bad memory for some things, but I tend to remember special things like this a little more than I can remember anything else.

Your first email address
Ha! My first email address was This email stands for: my initials (mlh); the year I was going to graduate from high school (03); and I guess I thought I was cute (cutie)...LOL! I was a teenager when I opened that account...probably around 14 or 15! It seems like so long ago! I still go into it every now and then, but it probably wouldn't hurt to deactivate it.

Ah, reminiscing! What are your firsts??


Saturday, February 16, 2013

Beyonce' Says...

"People just push you as far as you allow them [to]; and I'm learning that you can be kind and be strong but I have to be fair to myself."

My CB said something similar. Message received.

Definitely food for thought.

J. Cole

So, J. Cole put out his first single and I must admit...I am very impressed, much more impressed than the Yours Truly EP that dropped earlier in the week. If this is what the album will be like, I think I can rest a little bit better with this. I will get the album either way, good or I prefer good!

As fans, we want to see our favorite artists grow, so of course we want to continuously hear music that's better than the last thing they put out. I think artists have it harder these days with all this social media. Singles travel much quicker because it, albums get played out much quicker because of it, so artists are forced to put out much more music than the artists of the past. I give these men and women a hand clap. I guess that's why you find something you enjoy doing so it doesn't seem like work.

I've got my eyes, and ears, on you J. Cole. Nice work. You've had more than enough time to put together a good album, so that's exactly what I'm expecting.

Good Job

Friday, February 15, 2013

Harlem Shake

My little sister keeps me young and hip. Today she sent me a YouTube video of the Harlem Shake.

I feel sooo "not cool" and "old" when I find out about things like this; like every time I come in on something like this, I'm on the tail end of it; like everyone has known about it for months and I'm just now finding out about it! For instance, I didn't find out about Gangnam Style until months after that whole thing started, but a lot of people didn't know about that one (because I asked) so I don't feel so bad about that one.

Thanks to my sister,  I think I'm on the front end of this one. It looks like it would be so much fun to put one of these together with a good group of people. If you carefully look at each and every person in these dance mobs, I'm pretty sure you will find at least one person in each scene that will make you laugh hysterically!!

My sister currently goes to my Alma Mater (the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill!!), so she forwarded me the one they to represent the home team!!

There are millions of these videos. If you're ever bored and need a laugh, check them out!


Friday's Letters

I've seen this on a few blogs now and have decided to give it a try! Friday's Letters, from what I gather and for what I will be using them for, are letters thanking people/things for things they've done during the week. They're also kind of like a rundown of things that have happened that week. So let's get it!

2.8.13 through 2.15.13
Dear God,
Things have definitely been tough emotionally for me lately. Thank You for always being there for me. Thank You for Your Word. You've blessed me in so many ways. I'm working on getting back into my routine and infusing you throughout my daily routines more. Please, give me strength! Thank You for my life and thank You for taking care of me!
Dear Moma,
Thank you so much for all you've been to me. I'm happy to have spent your birthday with you and I thank you for spending time with me Saturday. Even though I was super exhausted (sorry) I had a great time with you. I know it's not much, but I hope you enjoy the gifts! I love you and I look forward to spending time with you soon!

Dear Nicole,
Thanks so much for coming to visit! With both us being so busy, I completely understand how hard it is to find time to get together, relax, and do nothing! I had a blast staying up half the night with both you and Maddie, but we definitely need a whole weekend. We can't squeeze fun into one night!! I'm soo looking forward to our Mrs. Carter event!

Dear Ruzzle Opponents,
Thanks for being there when I have a few seconds. Even though you guys forget about our games from time to time, I won't complain. As addictive as the game is, I know we all have lives. But, when I'm looking for time filler...thanks for being there!

Dear [Word Hero],
Thank you for preparing me to whoop butt in Ruzzle. Because of you, and the months you kept me up late at night playing you, I'm a beast at Ruzzle. THANKS!

Dear Eden,
Thanks for buying our Beyonce’ concert tickets! I'm too excited. A ladies weekend is definitely needed and it's a win-win that we’ll be getting able to see Beyonce too!

Dear Coworker,
You’re always so encouraging whenever I see you. Out of everyone in our “class” you’re the only one that keeps up with everybody. You always bring the positivity no matter what the conversation and I appreciate that.

Dear CB,
I’ma keep this short because you know how long-winded I can get when talking to and about you. Thank you for listening to me and for being my sounding board. I miss you like crazy, but you already know that. Your advice and words hold much weight and that is why I’m thanking you this week!!

I think this will be a very therapeutic process for me. I'm forced to look at things I'm thankful for as opposed to focusing on the negative! I'm forced to be appreciative for people and things in my life that bring me joy. And, I can watch myself grow!!

What are you thankful for this week?
(If you do a Friday's Letters, let me know so I can visit and check it out!!)

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Boring Straight Hair

I had my hair straightened for my Naturalversary. For the last two weeks my hair has been straight...and it was VERY cute to start with, but after about a week (and after my boyfriend saw it), I was ready to call the straight hair thing quits!!

This past weekend I wanted to wash my hair sooo bad but I convinced myself not to because there was no point. I knew I'd be getting my hair done Tuesday, so I felt it would a waste of my good products!!

Pinterest Pic
of Comb Coils
I'm going to start calling my salon day Dilemma Tuesday. I never know what I want to get done to my's become quite ridiculous! This time I had it narrowed down to two styles. I knew I either wanted comb coils or a flexi rod set. I was originally going to get the comb coils. I hadn't seen a finished product of the coils in person, but I saw one picture on Pinterest that convinced me that it would be a good look for me.

One: this picture is a deceptive because this lady has WAY more hair than I do! Two: this picture is a deceptive because her hair is a reddish color. For those that know me or may have been following my hair journey, you know I had red hair for about 7 years.

I LOVED MY RED HAIR. When I decided to get red hair, I was trying to be like my Mom. She started rinsing her hair with a deep purple color when I was in high school. A few years later, I was in college and craving a different look. I decided to try this hair rinse. Since I didn't want to be exactly like her, with the purple, I chose Ruby Red. If you read this, you know red is my favorite color! I rinsed my hair the whole time I was in college and it was extremely gorgeous. I didn't realize how much I loved it until I got used to it. There were two occasions when I stopped rinsing my hair. One was my senior year in college and the other time was during grad school.

Jazzing Ruby Red Hair RinseEach time, I went right back to the red. I felt it gave me flair!! People always commented on my red hair. I like to stand out and having red hair was different. Since my natural hair color is so light, when the rinse was applied it stood out more than it would on someone with darker hair. Rinses are a lighter form of hair dying. Because it's not permanent, the down side is all the run off. If I were to sweat or get my hair wet...or even for the first few days after getting the color dye would be all over the neck of my shirts, coats, blazers, etc. When I washed my hair at home it was like a bloody scene because the dye would run like crazy!! Anyhow, I digress.

My whole point is I changed my mind about the coils because I didn't think my coils would look as nice as they do in that picture. I went a step further and googled other pictures of comb coils because I know some of those pictures on Pinterest can be very deceiving. I was not pleased with the additional pictures I found. They were not as gorgeous.

SO, because I have an important appointment on Thursday, I didn't want to chance it with a so-so hairdo. I went with the flexi rods. 

Sitting under the dryer with flexi rods Every time I try a new style I get so nervous. I like to know how things are going to turn out because I don't like being disappointed, no one does! But I think this turned out pretty well. I went in; got my hair shampooed and conditioned; got my hair set in about 20 minutes; sat under the dryer for what seemed like forever; got the rods taken out and voila! My stylist always compliments my hair and how easy it is to work with. She said that my hair rolled with the rods so well that it was making her job that much easier. She also told me that hair normally grows a half an inch a month, but mine is definitely growing at a much quicker rate...maybe an inch per month! I see my hair every day so I don't feel like it's doing that much growing, but the ladies at the salon say differently than what I think. I guess I'm just craving "hang time" (hair that hangs down from the head).

Flexi Rod CurlsThe curls are extremely cute, but since the style is so new, the curls are still extremely tight. 

I know as time goes on the curls will loosen and I will probably like it more then. I guess I just got used to the straight hair hanging around my face and now that it's not it's kinda like...ehh. So, I guess we'll see with time how much truth there is to this fast growing hair statement and to see if my hair will hang a little more.  But for now, I still love, Love, LOVE my hair!!

And Visit Kerry at Oh So Amelia:
Life in a Break Down
There are many things I love, so it was hard to pick one thing to discuss today. I picked this post about my hair because I've missed blogging about it!! This journey (going and becoming natural) is still so exciting for me. I love sharing my experiences with it and, in turn, I hope to inspire others to do it, educate others about this process, and entertain you all with my stories!!
Join my blog and the Blog Hop, visit Rekita, Kerry...and other bloggers! Share what your favorite posts from the week and what you love!!
Also, welcome the "Almost Friday Thursday Blog Hop"!! You never know who you might find!
Have a LOVEly day everyone!!

Wednesday, February 13, 2013


I wrote a post a little while ago about things I wanted to be held accountable for. I was being slack on getting the items done, so I've created a whole page for it. Now that I'm trying to hold myself more accountable for this stuff, I've been doing a lot better. I've created a whole page for my Accountability Tasks!! I will be updating my task completions daily. Once a week is done, I will move that week down towards the bottom so it can be compared with the current week. So check it out; I'm soliciting you guys to keep me in check with this stuff. It's important for me to get this stuff down pact!!

Help me!

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

This Is Incredible!

I want to share two incredible things tonight. Two of my favorite artists have come out of hiding! Let's get started!!

Started From The Bottom - Drake

This young man is on my list of favorites! THIS SONG GETS ME SO HYPE!! I just listened to his last album "Take Care" the other day. Then he drops this on 'em. Now, I heard the song and loved it off gate, then he puts this video out....OH MAN! If this song doesn't make you want to get up out of your seat, I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL!! I actually think this song may become my new theme song. You know that music that plays when you enter a room in slow music...yeah, this is mine!

Here's to one of my favorites!

Drake, don't let me down with this next album
("Nothing Was The Same" - I LOVE IT ALREADY)!!

One of your biggest fans!

Yours Truly - J. Cole

J. Cole, my man, where have you been?!?! I know you are diligently working on that album, but we've missed you! I certainly appreciate you putting something out for your people...we've been waiting. This guy is definitely one of my favorite artists as well. I love J. Cole because I feel like I can truly relate to his story. We share so many similarities, it's hard not to love his songs. He's from NC - me too. We grew up a few hours from each other. He's my classmate; he's my age, graduated high school in 2003 and college in 2007 - me too. He's rapped a lot about how he's grown up, made it out of a town where most people don't, to get through college and have to worry about how to pay student loans off - me too! I mean, when you've felt what somebody else has felt, you can understand their story. It helps you feel like there's somebody out there who really understands your story like you do.

Music is so much more than just feel good noise coming out of your speakers that makes you want to dance. While I definitely enjoy those songs too (see, sometimes you just need to zone out to something 1. from and educated artist, 2. that sounds good, 3. is lyrically put together well, and 4. is a good/true story. The radio doesn't really play that kind of music because that's not what's popular and that's not what people prefer to hear; but that definitely needs to change.

OKAY! Off my soapbox. I hope you guys enjoy this music...because I CERTAINLY DO!


Followers to Friends Blog Party

Be sure to visit this site to meet new people, read good blogs, and find new friends!!

Sunday, February 10, 2013

The ABC's of Mi!

I got this idea from Hannah Alexis at from Wonderfully Sewn. I thought it was a quick and fun post and also an easy way to for you to get to know a little bit more about me. I also wanted to break away from the monotony of my Black History Notes!! So, here ya have it:

A = Available or Married?
Tricky. I've never liked answering this question. I'm not married but I'm not available.

B = Book?
I'm working on reading The Bible cover to cover.
I have a schedule I use; in one night I read verses from the Old Testament, New Testament, Psalms, and Proverbs.

C = Cake or Pie?
I haven't really put my finger on what's my favorite kind. I used to think it was pineapple cake but when I put requests in for it, I never know how what it's going to come back tasting like...LOL. Everybody makes it differently. So...I think I'm going to change my mind on favorite cakes and start saying that strawberry shortcake is my favorite. You can't possibly mess that up!!

D = Drink of Choice?
Hands down!! If I don't have anything else in the refrigerator, you can bet your bottom dollar there's Mountain Dew in there!

E = Essential Item?
I always have it and I'm lost without it. Strawberry and cherry flavors are interchangeable.

F = Favorite Color?
Even though it shouldn't be...(I'm a sorority woman (an AKA) and our colors are pink and green. One of the "other" sororities color is red, so it's supposedly off limits to us!! - in a playful way :-). Red is my favorite color because that was my favorite color skittle as a child. I would always save all the red skittles and eat them last...either one by one or all at once. Whenever I find myself eating skittles, I still find myself doing this!

G = Game to watch or play?
I'm kinda like a pro at it! (Ruzzle me at mlhender if you're up for the challenge)

H = Hometown?
Kinston, NC.
Or K-Town for those who already know what's up!! K-Town stay down!

I = Indulgence?
Great question. I would probably have to say Reality TV.
As much as I hate to admit watching it. Most of the shows I have in my weekly lineup are Reality shows...and not the most wholesome Reality TV shows either.

J = Job
I work for a government agency. We're not supposed to say what we do :-)
I will, however, tell you that I have three degrees. A Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from the greatest school in the world, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill!! I have two Master of Science degrees: one in Substance Abuse and Clinical Counseling and the other in Rehabilitation Counseling, both from East Carolina Univeristy. I am a Certified Rehabilitation Counselor (or CRC) and I am a Licensed Clinical Addiction Specialist (or LCAS). I can be called a Counselor, Therapist, Licensed Professional, etc...but I like to refer to myself as a Clinician. I am working in my field.

K = Kids and Names?
I wish...
I do, however, have a fish named Fino!

L = Life is incomplete without?
God and Love

M = Music group or singer?
My favorite genre of music is rap/hip-hop.
I'm a music person. I played the flute for 6 years, the piccolo for 2 years, and the mellophone (the marching french horn) for 2 years. I have a ear for any kind of music. I could even say that, for the most part, when I listen to music, I'm probably listening more to the music than the words. However, I like Kendrick Lamar, Drake, and Kanye (to name a few). Check out my profile for more information about my music faves!

N = Number of siblings
I have one younger sister (from mom and dad) and a number of half siblings (from my dad).

O = Oranges or apples?
I had the best Apple Pie A La Mode the other day...O.M.Goodness!! Although oranges are good, I can't stand the smell of them...or lemons.

P = Phobias or fears?
I have many...but the main fear I have is death.
I know death is a normal part of life that we all must go through. I'm afraid of dying...more importantly I'm afraid I won't get a chance to experience the things I've wanted all my life before I die. I'm working on becoming more comfortable with death through understanding God better.

Q = Quote?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

R = Reason to Smile?
Ah, excellent question and well needed right now. I'm alive and able to take care of myself, by myself. I have people around me who love me and care about me and I KNOW my future will be brighter than my present.

S = Season?
I was born in the Fall, so I'm not a fan of anything weather that's too hot or too cold. I love both Spring and Fall because both seasons are in the middle. I picked Spring because things are warming up during this season. I always said I wanted to live in either Florida or California because neither of these states have a real winter. Every day that's not a cold day, is my favorite. Spring has more of these days, so it's crowned my favorite season!

T = Tattoos?
I have my name on my right wrist, facing me, in Monotype Corsiva print, with an asterisk on both the right and left side. LOL...very descriptive I know.
And, everybody always says the same thing..."What? Are you gonna forget your name?
-___-  (that's my are you serious face, or my 'really?'
NO!! I'm not going to forget my name for Pete's sake!! My name is very unique and it's very beautiful. It's pronounced like Rihanna's name...or like Meyonna (for those visual people). I can count the number of people who have read my name correctly upon seeing it for the first time on one hand!! Of all the people who have their name's tattooed on their me one just like mine and I'll give you 100 bucks (figuratively...only because I've Facebooked my name and I know there are others out there...and who knows what kind of tattoos they have...LOL!!)!! 
Sidebar: Everyone I've found with my name is younger. I also know a little girl who was named after me. So, I like to credit myself with being the first one EVER!!

U = Unkown fact about me?
I may not be the timeliest person for all things.
Saying that is kind of backwards for me because I hate being late for things too. I would say I try to time things so I get there right at the time I'm supposed to be there. For instance, I have to be at work at a certain time. There's a saying that goes something like 'if you aren't on time for something then you don't care about it'. I beg to differ. My viewpoint is, why does it matter what time I get there or leave, as long as I do all I'm supposed to do while I'm there?! Regardless of what my viewpoint is, I don't pay getting up on time is one goal I'm working on. I will be writing a post about where I am with my accountability tasks soon!

V = Vegetable?

W = Worst habit?
I've been recently told that I smack loudly when I eat...LOL.
It's funny, but it's not. I've been working on breaking that habit but it's been a lot harder to break than I thought it would. I never realized I did it. I know I can eat pretty ravenously at times (only when I'm in my comfort zone though...I'm not out at restaurants or at dinner parties eating like an animal) but I've never noticed this. Needless to say, I will eliminate this...ASAP!

X = X-rays?
Dental and a CAT scan.
When I first started having issues with migraines, I had a CAT scan (think it was a CAT scan) to rule out other more serious causes of the headaches.

Y = Your favorite food?
Even though CB tells me this isn't a real food and can't be my favorite food...I absolutely LOVE french fries and always have...since I was little. I enjoy eating all kinds of potatoes, but I have to say french fries are my favorite way to eat them. I can eat french fries as a meal right by themselves. One odd way I eat them is by dipping them in applesauce!! (You should try it, it's so good!)
Sidebar: Another unknown fact about me is that I burned us out of house and home my Senior year in high school because of french fries. We were out for Spring Break, I believe, and I was home alone with my dog. The whole time I was cooking french fries, she was jumping at the door, wanting to go outside. In a rush to get her outside, I left the grease on the stove...AND FORGOT TO TURN IT OFF!! Long story short, the grease caught on fire. Good news is the fire was contained in the kitchen. That story is an entertaining story to hear. We ended up having to move though. We lived in a hotel for a few weeks and in my parents' rush to get us in a house, they found a short term solution right before my graduation. That house was the worst ever! After I went off to college, they ended up finding something a little better, but it was only a two bedroom. So, I had to sleep in the living room when I visited from college! LOL...Thank God they ended up moving into a three bedroom later...but only after I was already in grad school with my own apartment! HA...the irony!

Z = Zodiac?
Libra, baby!!
All day everyday...and I fit the bill. I don't believe in astrology. This description about Libras is a lot to read, but it describes me perfectly (to be written by someone who knows nothing about me):

(Libras are first and foremost focused on others and how they relate to them. We can call this the sign of Partnership with a capital 'P' because these folks do not want to be alone! For a Libra, everything is better if it's done as a pair. Libras are good when paired up, too, since they epitomize balance, harmony and a sense of fair play. While they are true team players at work, their favorite partnership is at home: marriage. Libras feel most complete when they are coupled up with their lover, forever. 
          It's the Scales that symbolize Libra and Libras want to be on an even keel. Libras are objective, just, and want to do what's best for everyone. It's possible, though, that this penchant for fairness is for a different reason: Libras abhor conflict. The scales study every possible angle in the hopes of achieving peace and harmony, so much so that others may see them as fickle and indecisive. If that's what it takes to avoid a confrontation, that's fine with the Scales. The Libra-born are keen strategists, organizing groups with poise, and getting the job done. 
          The Scales are cultured, refined and love beautiful things. Most of all, they love beautiful people, which is why Libras do so well at cocktail parties or at the theater, opera or ballet. Those born under this sign always have the right thing to say and know how to make others feel comfortable. Suave? You bet. Libras are so adept at charming conversation that they need to be mindful of overstepping their boundaries and appearing vain or gossipy (the Scales do love intrigue). When these folks are on their game, however, they are a pleasure to be with. Libras are artistic, stylish and enjoy creating a beautiful world. The converse of this is that bored Libras can become apathetic and lazy -- but they'll smile anyway. 
          The element associated with Libra is Air, and that means reaching higher, specifically to the higher mind. Libras like to put their mind to good use, and enjoy communicating their thoughts to others. They like to use their smarts (and talk) to get to know others better -- yes, knowledge about people is where it's at for Libras. You can expect the Scales to make a fair argument, too, since they live by the principles of diplomacy and compromise. When this approach doesn't work, however, Libras are not above using their persuasive charms to get their way. Manipulative? Nah, Libras really are too nice for that. Libras are polite and don't like to fight, far preferring to talk things through. Remember, these folks know how to communicate (they're Air) so they're bound to make their point. Libras don't get in a huff when faced with an opposing viewpoint. Rather, they take a deep breath and consider all the options in the spirit of cooperation. 
Libras love the outdoors. They also love the colors of the sunset sky. In the game of love, Libras are a bundle of energy, romantic and LOYAL TO THE CORE
          The great strength of the Libra-born is their quest for fairness, peace and harmony. That the Scales are the great diplomats of the zodiac further helps their case. A beautiful journey this will be, thanks to the Libra's inimitable sense of style.)

If you do ABC's, let me know. If you read the description, you know I love getting to know things about people!

Also!! Join this Blog Hop:
Blog hops are fun ways to meet new people! I hope you guys browse through my blog, better yet join!! I will definitely return the favor!!

Blogs Buttons

Pharr Away
© Just Mi!. All rights reserved.