Wednesday, July 31, 2013

...The Things People Say & Do!

So, at work we recently got a new coworker. There are 6 people in our office, so it's like a little mini family. With this new person joining the family, we've done a lot of talking about different subjects to get a feel for who he as and for him to get a feel for who we are. He was talking about his toddler and someone mentions that I wanted babies and here comes this comment:

"Well, you can take my son. That'll probably change your mind."


This is not the first time a comment like this has been made in the office. One of my coworkers even recorded one of her child's temper tantrums specifically for me!

So, people with kids...let me let you in on a little secret. For those of us who actually want children, you offering up yours for free in hopes to change our minds, is probably not going to work. When I say I want children, that means I want my own. That means I want to get married; get pregnant; birth my own children out of my own body; and raise them the way my husband and I want to raise them!!!

I'm aware of what having children entails and I get that it will not be a walk in a park. I've seen it in action plenty of times. I understand the things that people obviously don't think I'll understand unless they freely offer to give me their children. That won't change my mind, neither will side comments about how my opinion will change once children get here!

This tends to happen more often than one would expect, so I wanted to put it out into the universe for all the parents out there offering up their children, these kinds of deterrents don't work! And yes, I realize that most often these things are done in jest, but take it from's not cool!!

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  1. Great post! I know EXACTLY how you feel... I wrote about this just last week as I'm always running into all the negatives of m post "What not to say to a woman who desires to be a mom." I hope to never do that to a future mom once I've had kids. It's crushing and sucks the life out of excitement! You're right... Not cool.

    1. I completely understand!! I checked out the post and you are so right with many of the points you touched on!

      I appreciate you stopping by!

  2. Very interesting post. I've heard this comment a time or two myself and I'm irritated every time. People say the darnedest things, I tell you. I came blog hopn from Her & Nicole. Lovely blog. I think I'm staying:-)

    1. SEE!! I'm not the only one who feels this way. I mean, I know people are trying to be funny when they say these things...but it irritates me and I just don't like it!

      Thanks for the comment!

  3. Well said. I've heard this type of comment concerning marriage and kids quite often.

    1. Hey Libby!! It's too common. I think if I had a kid and knew someone what wanted children...I don't think I would say and do these things. That's just me!


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